Saying Good-bye is too easy

 

It’s the end of the semester. I feel all endings are alike. The lead up to the endings are always the worst. Whether it’s because you can’t wait for something to end or because you don’t want something to end. It’s always a “Ruff!!!” time filled with anxiety, suspense, and countless other emotions.

 

I’ve mentioned change is good, but the lead up to it scares me. Hard to believe anything could scare me I know, but it’s true. I’m bringing this up because it’s a lot of people’s final semester of college. They’re leaving their friends, their fraternity/sorority, possibly their ladyfriends/guyfriends) and pretty much their lifestyle. I’ve lost a lot of friends mainly because I get lazy and give up on the friendship. I’ve lost out on the opportunity of relationships because I refused to find my place in their lives. And worst of all, I’ve lost family because I was too naïve to believe a brother could be taken away from me. It’s a shame hindsight is 20/20, and fate isn’t always on your side.

 

But, there is a silver lining and it’s not some b.s. about how people need change to grow, because I only believe that partially. No, the silver lining is that there is always something you can do. How do I know this? Because I put my big boy pants on and sent that dreaded text over a year later. The response was as I expected. “Who is this”, but once you get past the first couple of awkward texts, you’re on your way to rebuilding a friendship. A moment of truth, if you invest time and emotions into people, laziness isn’t a good reason to let circumstances end whatever relationship you might have with them. In comparison, Good-byes are too easy compared to keeping in touch. I know sometimes you can’t help losing people in your life, but if you can help it, help it. You never know when’s the last time you are going to see someone for the last time, so make every moment count, and fight for all the future moments you can.

 

The last thing I feel the need to say. Putting it simply, I met someone in my time at college. And what captivated me the most was that they’re the only person with more confidence than me. So much so that it made me nervous, heck, it still makes me nervous. We might as well be night and day to be honest, but every now and then I’d catch myself thinking about this person, and realizing I goofed. It being her final semester and knowing I’d never see her again I did the most logical thing I could think of and got back in touch. Keeping my expectations realistic, and knowing her, I know it won’t be easy getting back in her good graces but I like to think I can at least rebuild a friendship with this person I don’t want to lose again. Funny thing is I didn’t know her for very long, but none-the-less, she had such an impact on me and I know that finding a way to keep her around can only bring about good things.

 

So stay away from those evil good-byes that I believe are just excuses.

It’s the end of the semester. I feel all endings are alike. The lead up to the endings are always the worst. Whether it’s because you can’t wait for something to end or because you don’t want something to end. It’s always a “Ruff!!!” time filled with anxiety, suspense, and countless other emotions.

I’ve mentioned change is good, but the lead up to it scares me. Hard to believe anything could scare me I know, but it’s true. I’m bringing this up because it’s a lot of people’s final semester of college. They’re leaving their friends, their fraternity/sorority, possibly their ladyfriends/guyfriends) and pretty much their lifestyle. I’ve lost a lot of friends mainly because I get lazy and give up on the friendship. I’ve lost out on the opportunity of relationships because I refused to find my place in their lives. And worst of all, I’ve lost family because I was too naïve to believe a brother could be taken away from me. It’s a shame hindsight is 20/20, and fate isn’t always on your side.

But, there is a silver lining and it’s not some b.s. about how people need change to grow, because I only believe that partially. No, the silver lining is that there is always something you can do. How do I know this? Because I put my big boy pants on and sent that dreaded text over a year later. The response was as I expected. “Who is this”, but once you get past the first couple of awkward texts, you’re on your way to rebuilding a friendship. A moment of truth, if you invest time and emotions into people, laziness isn’t a good reason to let circumstances end whatever relationship you might have with them. In comparison, Good-byes are too easy compared to keeping in touch. I know sometimes you can’t help losing people in your life, but if you can help it, help it. You never know when’s the last time you are going to see someone for the last time, so make every moment count, and fight for all the future moments you can.

The last thing I feel the need to say. Putting it simply, I met someone in my time at college. And what captivated me the most was that they’re the only person with more confidence than me. So much so that it made me nervous, heck, it still makes me nervous. We might as well be night and day to be honest, but every now and then I’d catch myself thinking about this person, and realizing I goofed. It being her final semester and knowing I’d never see her again I did the most logical thing I could think of and got back in touch. Keeping my expectations realistic, and knowing her, I know it won’t be easy getting back in her good graces but I like to think I can at least rebuild a friendship with this person I don’t want to lose again. Funny thing is I didn’t know her for very long, but none-the-less, she had such an impact on me and I know that finding a way to keep her around can only bring about good things.

So stay away from those evil good-byes, they’re just excuses.